Signs Your Partner’s Still into an Ex
Holding on to previous romantic attachments creates feelings of distrust and can stymie an otherwise promising relationship. So, are you wondering if your honey’s heart still rests in the hands of a past love?
There’s no way to know for sure without talking to your partner about your concerns. But how do you know when you need to have that talk? Here are signs that it may be time to bring it up.
1. Talking About the Ex Too Much
We all compare our current romance to ones we’ve had in the past, and an occasional reference to an old steady is no cause for alarm. “But,” “if it’s happening 24-seven, it’s a problem. It’s going to keep both of you from enjoying the new relationship.
If you’re hearing every detail and story about the former relationship, it’s probably a sign that your partner hasn’t moved on.
2. Not Talking About the Former Love At All
Silence about a former lover can indicate lack of closure. Guilty feelings from carrying a secret torch often make a person not want to talk about an ex.If you notice your partner’s afraid to bring up the ex or if your partner’s tried and it’s becomes a sore point, it’s time to ask why.
3. Online Stalking
Whether it’s with Facebook, a dating profile, or Googling the ex’s name, keeping frequent online tabs can be a red flag. If they’re spending too much time online following a past partner, it may make you feel neglected. Are you getting what you need from this person, especially when he or she spends two hours on Facebook after dinner? It’s time to speak up.
4. Too Much Contact with the Ex
Frequent emails, phone calls, or online messaging with a past love can take away from a current relationship. But it’s a matter of context don’t forget. If you’re talking weekly emails and your partner is still fully invested in your current relationship, then it’s not a sign of anything.
But if it’s weekly emails and you partner isn’t devoted, then you have a legit concern. Your partner may not have cut the cord. A new relationship is all about trust. If you’re not OK with your current partner’s contact with an ex, say so.
Your partner and his or her ex should be willing to take a break from each other while you two concentrate on what you have together. It doesn’t have to be a permanent break, but it is the respectful thing to do.